Showing posts from January, 2014

Cultivating a Good Life: Pulling some weeds

In continuing with my thoughts on my One Little Word for 2014 and extending the gardening metaphor, I have been thinking lately about the weeds in my life.

If my goal in 2014 is to cultivate a better life - strengthen my marriage, relationships, and health, then one step in the process will be to eliminate things which work against that goal.

I've thought of several things - most of them attitudes rather than actions, but the main thing that I am going to eliminate is the constant use of social media.  No, I'm not deleting any accounts; I will remain on facebook, where I enjoy keeping up with friends near and far.  However, I have taken all social media apps off of my phone.  It is just too tempting to constantly be "checking in" - and to what end?  Although it serves to entertain, it often distracts from my real life that is right in front of me.

So, I will see you on facebook, my friends, just not as constantly or as immediately.  I may be a bit behind on what i…

Cultivate: Water your own grass

"The grass is greener where you water it."

I used to be a "grass is greener" kind of girl. I was always ready for a new something - new job, new city, new adventure. Part of that was youth, but the other part of it was that it was easier to cut-and-run when things got difficult or boring rather than to CULTIVATE the life I had where I was. 
There are many areas in my life where I could long for "greener pastures." I would prefer to live in a different city (and state). I would prefer to live in a nicer (not in the middle of renovations) house. I would prefer to live near my lifelong friends. 
However, none of those changes are an option for me right now. So my choices are to be miserable, or to water my own grass. 
Even after living back in my hometown for 8 years, I do not feel at home here. Why? Probably because I haven't done much to cultivate a life in this place. I'm still trying to figure out what that would look like, but this year I'm goin…

One Word: 2014

A lot of attention lately has been given to the concept of One Little Word as people have been posting their word for 2014 on facebook.

In 2011, I chose the word Nurture - although I don't know how much more nurturing I am in general, having CastiĆ©l definitely showed me that I am more nurturing than I thought I was!

2012 and 2013 - no words chosen to focus on.  What can I say?  I was busy.

Enter 2014 - and my word is:  Cultivate.

At first I thought about the word FINISH, as I looked over my goals for 2014 and realized that 10 out of 16 dealt with finishing an unfinished project.  However, one of the things that I love about myself, but that causes problems in my family and relationships sometimes, is my love of productivity.  My self-worth is often tied to a completed to-do list, which I have discovered is not always a good thing.  So, rather than encourage a trait that doesn't contribute to the health of myself, my family, and my friendships, I decided on a word that would…